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To some, weight loss surgery is almost as taboo as being overweight in the judgmental society we live in. The truth is, not everyone has success with dieting and exercise. I see photo’s all over the internet of before and after pictures of people who have had weight loss surgery and the comments on these pictures are astonishing!

Take this for example:

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Photos like these usually warrant comments like “oh wow good job” and “congratulations!” and “That must have been hard work”


Then photos like these seem to only receive comments like “well if he hadn’t gained the weight to begin with he wouldn’t have to lose it” and “big deal, he just a surgery to fix the problem.” and even “who cares, he’s still fat”

The man pictured above is Paul Mason, formerly the “World’s Fattest Man.” Through gastric bypass surgery, diet changes, and exercise, he has lost 650 pounds! As I said a lot of people thing that WLS is the “easy way out.”


I would like to know what is easy about this? It is a huge change and a lot of lifestyle changes have to be made afterwards to prevent any complications. Most of the time, people who speak ill of the procedures, don’t understand what it entails. Here is a story from a couple good friends of mine sharing their story with WLS. You can check them out on Facebook as well.

Happy Friday everyone! I want to start today with story telling. Lol, well actually how about story sharing? As you know, I answer thousands and thousands of mails directly with individuals considering WLS or that have had WLS as well as bariatric programs, surgeons, support staff and more. You would be amazed at how many of those patient emails ask the same questions or share the same experiences. For me, one of the best parts of this journey has been the people! I LOVE getting to know each and every one of you. I LOVE hearing about your journey or helping you as you prepare for your journey. I LOVE the comraderie and that bond that we have because we have these shared experiences. Unless someone has walked in our shoes, they can never understand the pain, stress, distress, frustration, agony, struggle and more that we’ve all endured. We all have experienced the feeling of shame or inadequacy because of our morbid obesity and that’s so hurtful. We’ve all felt the way the weight has strained our bodies and our organs and the health issues that come with that. We’ve endured the stares and/or the comments. Oh, “you would be so pretty if you lost weight.” So you’re saying I’m ugly now? “You know if you just exercise the weight will come off.” Really? Do they think we’ve just sat around and never tried that? “Watch what you eat and you’ll lose weight.” Seriously! Do they think we haven’t tried EVERY diet plan there is? “Do you really want to take the easy way out with surgery?”. Easy? Since when did major surgery become “easy”? People, though well meaning, can speak without thinking and can hurt us without even realizing it. If they only knew what we all go through or went through prior to making this choice. Most of us consider surgery and research it for years before actually taking the plunge.

Here’s the funny thing. Those same people that thought surgery wasn’t a good choice or called it “easy” typically end up being so impressed with post-surgery results that they change their entire outlook! They become as wrapped up in your success and share your story with others too.

So why did I tell you all of this? Several reasons. The first is that once you step out of your comfort zone and share your story with others in your shoes or that were, you’ll find everyone sees something of their own story in your story too and they share back with you. This journey is about YOU and your health. We all deserve a solution that will work for us. We deserve to be healthy and happy. We take this very seriously. There’s nothing short cut about this choice. You think about you for a change and know you have an entire support community that knows, understands and is here for you.

-Melissa & Dan


I urge everyone to do their research before they put someone down because they chose a different route for their weight loss, or if you are curious about WLS, don’t just jump into it. It’s not an easy fix. What works for some, may not work for others. Ask questions and get all the information!

I hope everyone has a safe, fun, and happy weekend!

If anyone has any experiences with WLS or knows someone who has, we would love to hear from you!